Forgiveness = The Real "F" Word

Today’s short & simple message***

Marriage is about forgiveness.  Marriage IS forgiveness.  Go into it with a forgiving heart. Go into it with a forgiving nature. Forgiveness is the powerful tool that will help make it last happily ever after.   

How to Forgive

• Be open.
• Make a decision to forgive your spouse.
• When images of the betrayal or hurt flash in your mind, think of a calming place or do something to distract yourself from dwelling on those thoughts.
• Don't throw an error or mistake back in your spouse's face at a later date. Don't use it as ammunition in an argument.
• Don't seek revenge or retribution. It will only extend the pain.
• Accept that you may never know the reason for the transgression.
• Remember that forgiveness doesn't mean you condone the hurtful behavior.
• Be patient with yourself. Being able to forgive your spouse takes time. Don't try to hurry the process.
• If you continue to be unable to forgive, or you find yourself dwelling on the betrayal or hurt, please seek professional counseling to help you let go and forgive.

How to Ask for Forgiveness

• Show true contrition and remorse for the pain that you've caused.
• Be willing to make a commitment to not hurt your spouse again by repeating the hurtful behavior.
• Accept the consequences of the action that created the hurt.
• Be open to making amends.
• Be patient with your spouse. Being able to forgive you often takes time. Don't dismiss your spouse's feelings of betrayal by telling your spouse to "get over it."