The Sense of Touch

Further ignite intimacy between you and your spouse by tapping into nature’s most evoking sense, the power of “the touch.”  Assist in helping the hubby relax and release some tension by giving him a romantic massage.  Follow these helpful tips to perform a massage that will lead to a sensual moment that you can share with your partner.    

First set the mood.  Choose a nice, quite and private spot within your home.  Then, dim lights to a comfortable setting.  In the background, play soft melodic music.  Have the volume low enough for you to talk comfortably over.  You don’t want the music to be overpowering; it should only serve as a backdrop to the mood.

Use candles, warm lotions or essential oils to enhance his experience.  Certain scents can help put your partner in a more relaxed state.  Try floral, lavender, sandalwood or vanilla smelling candles and oils for his massage.  These scents are known for their stress-reducing, comforting powers.

  

Begin with your husband lying down on his stomach.  You want to start by simply rubbing your hands down his head, neck and back, with no pressure.  The objective here is to simply increase the temperature between your hands and his back.  Repeat this movement for a couple of minutes to get him use to your touch.  Use this time to encourage a little flirty conversation between you two. 

Once you feel that your partner is used to your touch, straddle his body (a leg on each side), let your hands press firmly into his back, and begin performing a stroking movement.  Start from the neck down.  Each stroke should begin from the spine and roll off the sides of his body.  Try to keep even pressure between each of your hands.  The key here is continuous movement!

Maintain a continuous flow during the entire massage.  Make your movements blend together in harmony.  Each movement should enhance the pervious and prepare for the next.  Make sure your strokes are fluid because a jerky massage will kill the mood, and his back. 

Both you and your spouse are sure to enjoy the intimate atmosphere you created.  He should be very appreciative.  Enjoy!

Always Carry Her! (Please Read)

“When I got ...home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

~Anonymous

Falling in love requires a PULSE; Staying in love requires a PLAN

Thought to ponder: Falling in love requires a pulse, but staying in love requires a plan. 

So, do you and your spouse have a plan?  We take time to plan everything else in our lives.  We plan vacations, weekend events, financial goals, etc., but do we plan love?  Do you and your spouse have a plan to “stay in love?”

Our vows are a good start.  It’s a great general structure, but now it’s time for action.  Here are a few points to iron out and discuss as you and your mate create your plan to stay in love.   

• Realize when that argument isn’t worth having

• Go the extra mile to be romantic.

• Show your appreciation

• Compromise

• Discuss finances

• Share dreams, goals and even fears with each other

• Be honest

• Confess your mistakes

• Say you’re sorry when you’re wrong

• Forgive

• Be patient

• Don’t threaten to leave

• Make a promise that divorce is not an option

• Fight fair

• Don’t hold grudges

• Know your spouse’s breaking point or hot buttons

Is your love conditional?

"Most, if not all, divorces are formed from WORLDLY love because partners don't have true faith.  They base their love on limits & circumstances." ~ K. Lee

PONDER THAT!

Marriage is a special union built on unconditional love…UNCONDITIONAL LOVE… Hmmmm! Lets take a minute to break that word down to its truest description. 

• The word unconditional is an adjective meaning not limited by conditions; absolute.  

• The word love is a noun with several meanings, but the most relevant for this content would be, a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

Is your love conditional?  What circumstances would make you pack your bags and sign those papers? 

Far too often I hear married individuals say “I love my wife/husband, but if she/he (FILL IN THE BLANK). I’m out!”  What’s your blank?  The obvious, and most popular, response would be cheating.  But, we know that life brings along other obstacles that have you rethinking your marriage status.  In marriage, we are put through challenging circumstances as a way to show us how to love our spouses the way God loves us, UNCONDITIONALLY. 

 “4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8  

A prayer for a wife & a husband

Dear God:

I lift to you in prayer the institute of marriage.  Today’s world has corrupted the sacred covenant you have created.  Today I pray for all those who have or getting ready to embarked on their marital journey.

My prayer for a “WIFE”

• May she make you her first love, so that she can truly love her husband as unconditional as you love us
• May her will align with your will
• May she increase in patience
• May she humble herself to her husband the way Sarah did to Abraham
• May she increase in self-esteem and self-worth
• May she increase in supporting and uplifting her husband, being his one and only cheerleader
• May she choose her husband first, even before her children, for the essence of their family starts with the relationship between her and her husband
• May she increase in love
• May she stay prayerful
• May she have confidence
• May she resist temptation
• May she stay loyal & faithful to you and to her husband 
• May she have a forgiving heart

My prayer for a “HUSBAND”

• May he solely look to you for guidance in becoming the leader of his home
• May he make you his first love, so that he can truly love his wife like Christ loved his church
• May he increase in sensitivity for his wife and his children
• May he not mistake his leadership role as a dictatorship
• May he have a forgiving heart    
• May he stay prayerful
• May he increase in wisdom
• May he increase in strength, both physical and mental
• May he increase in love
• May he stay loyal & faithful to you and his wife
• May he resist temptation
• May look to you to take away the stress that falls atop his shoulders
• May he cherish his wife

Steel House or Glass House

Marriage is a sacred covenant between you, your spouse and God.  Your spouse is more than just your lover, your provider, your friend, your support system, he is a test to your relationship to the one above and vise versa, and you serve as his test.  The Bible gives specific instructions on the institute of marriage.  It outlines specific details on how a wife should treat her husband and how a husband should treat his wife and what the union symbolizes.  Your marriage is a direct reflection of your personal relationship with God.  The more you love, align and submit yourself to God, the more you can love your spouse unconditionally, be patient, be loyal and be true to him.  A marriage foundation built on God produces a house made of steel.  A marriage foundation built on anything else produces a glass house built on sand.  When the enemy (greed, jealousy, temptation, sickness, debt, etc.) comes and starts throwing rocks, which house would you rather be in?       

Pillow Talk: Is Talking Overrated?

We're always told that one of the essential keys to a successful marriage is communication.  But, can too much talking be detrimental to your marriage?  I ran across this article today and it had some interesting points.  Please click on the link below, read and share your feedback. 
http://tressu.gr/148953

The Stiletto Wife

The Stiletto Wife….Who is she? The stiletto wife wears an "S" upon her chest.  She is a confidante. She is a motivator. She is a praying machine. She walks in God's grace. She cooks (to the best of her ability.) She cleans. She is serious about her career, but makes sure it doesn't interfere with her role at home.  She is humble enough to respect her husband's position as "King of his Castle."  She is secure enough to submit & follow his lead.  She knows how to be a team player. She puts God first & the hubby comes second.  She exudes love. She exudes patience. She exudes respect.  She does all this with a smile, a sense of style and rocking a bomb pair of stilettos. She is me... IS SHE YOU?  Like our page on facebook...The Stiletto Wife

Forgiveness = The Real "F" Word

Today’s short & simple message***

Marriage is about forgiveness.  Marriage IS forgiveness.  Go into it with a forgiving heart. Go into it with a forgiving nature. Forgiveness is the powerful tool that will help make it last happily ever after.   

How to Forgive

• Be open.
• Make a decision to forgive your spouse.
• When images of the betrayal or hurt flash in your mind, think of a calming place or do something to distract yourself from dwelling on those thoughts.
• Don't throw an error or mistake back in your spouse's face at a later date. Don't use it as ammunition in an argument.
• Don't seek revenge or retribution. It will only extend the pain.
• Accept that you may never know the reason for the transgression.
• Remember that forgiveness doesn't mean you condone the hurtful behavior.
• Be patient with yourself. Being able to forgive your spouse takes time. Don't try to hurry the process.
• If you continue to be unable to forgive, or you find yourself dwelling on the betrayal or hurt, please seek professional counseling to help you let go and forgive.

How to Ask for Forgiveness

• Show true contrition and remorse for the pain that you've caused.
• Be willing to make a commitment to not hurt your spouse again by repeating the hurtful behavior.
• Accept the consequences of the action that created the hurt.
• Be open to making amends.
• Be patient with your spouse. Being able to forgive you often takes time. Don't dismiss your spouse's feelings of betrayal by telling your spouse to "get over it."

Embarking On Our 1 year Anniversary

The first anniversary.....naturally it brings to mind romance. We've been floating on cloud nine, in loving bliss for the past couple of months, anticipating our romantic (much needed) spa getaway. As I reflect over the past year, I think about the happy, funny, exciting and sometimes trying moments we have had and I realize that this journey, this one year journey has assisted in making me a better woman. With the help of my husband, my faith and spiritual relationship with God has matured. This journey has led me to pray with more passion and not just for myself, to be more loving, to be more patient, to listen more, to be less selfish and to realize that life is waaayyyy too short to sweat the small stuff. I look at my husband and realize he is a gift, a gift from God with the purpose of making me a holier, more devoted woman of God. This first year has been blissfully and still everyday brings a new and exciting adventure. I learn something new about him and myself daily. Never a dull moment! Cheers to still feeling like a newlywed. #newlywedfeelingforever

Know your role & stay in your lane!

Great advice for all married couples, regardless of race.  We all have designated roles to play in our relationships, but far too many husbands and wives don't know their roles.  Want a successful marriage?  Then know your role, take on the responsibility and stay in your lane!

Husbands ~ lead your families, set the vision for your households, clearly communicate your goals and direction to your spouse, be willing to sacrifice and take full responsibility for the outcomes of your decisions.

Wives~ submit, surrender, conserve your energy, be his lover and supporter.    

Dual participation will help guarantee a bliss filled life together

Sister Circle LIVE!

Sister Circle is one of my favorite social gatherings!  I was introduced to Sister Circle by one of my closest sister-friends.  Sister Circle is a concept where a group of us would casually meet over someone's house, bringing a dish and a bottle J We came equipped with questions on different topics from relationships to politics.  All of our questions were written down and placed anonymously in a basket.  The host would read each question and the group had 10 minutes to discuss or debate each topic.

My sister-friend made it more interesting when she hosted a Co-ed Couples Circle.  Talk about good times!  It took a while for our men to really open up to talk, but when their guards were down OH BOY did the conversation start!  It was therapeutic for many of the participating couples, including me and my hubby (back then, the boyfriend.)  It was kind of like this blog.  It served as an open, non-intimidating forum for us to talk, listen, get other peoples opinions, debate and have fun with friends.  After our first Co-ed Couples Circle it became big on our monthly “things to do” list. 

Since we have moved I haven’t been to a Sister Circle L So, I thought it be a great idea to play with all of you.  Below are some questions to ponder.  Feel free to answer them via your comments or share with your spouse and your closest friends.    

1. How often do you believe it is normal to want sex?
2. What was the hardest obstacle you guys had to overcome as a couple? 
3. What was the most romantic thing your mate did for you?
4. What is your mate’s best quality
5. What was the most romantic thing YOU did for your mate?
6. On a scale from 1 to 10 how happy are you right NOW?  
7. How do you express your love to your mate?
8. How often do you tell your mate you love them?
9. How does your friend's describe you?
10. What is the one thing that would be a relationship breaker for you?
11. Finish this sentence....I love when my mate.........
12. What is your best quality?
13. Can men and women really just be friends?
14. What do you admire most about your mate?
15. Do you think it's ok to keep noticing another people after you are in a committed relationship? Does this change when you are married?
16. When was the last time you took a shower together?
17. Is there anything you were passionate about when you were younger but that you gave up?
18. What is the one thing YOU need to work on?
19. If you could change one thing about your spouse what would it be?
20. If you could change one thing about YOURSELF what would it be?

Tale of a Newlywed Followers..........Fill free to add more questions to list via your comments!

Which televison couple best describes you and your mate?

As I'm pondering on the question at hand, I'm filled with a little tickling laughter thinking about my marriage and seeing many similarities between us and some relationships portrayed on television.  But, of course, one stands out above the rest.  I can soooo relate to the relationship between Dwayne and Whitley Wayne. 

Dwayne always managed to bring Whitley back to reality when her extremely boogee attitude reached it's peak.  Both were serious about their careers and held each other, their closest friends and family close to their hearts.  Whitley certainly wasn't Mrs. Susie Homemaker, but she took care of her "pookie" the best way she knew how, by showering him with love, support and affection!  And her "pookie" took care of her.  He always did a little extra to make her smile, even if it meant working over time to satisfy her expensive taste.     

Below is my short list of television couples.  I can certainly see some similarities with the couples below and the couples I'm surrounded by.  Feel free to add more couples to the list.  I'd love to hear your feedback.

Cliff and Clarie Huxtable -  Television's favorite couple of all time!  They were able to juggle successful careers and raise their five children in a loving, fun, down-to-earth, family-oriented environment.  Both Cliff and Clarie knew how to "stay in their lane." They ran their household with dual leadership and respect for one another. 

Derek and Meredith Shepherd - So it's not your typically (or realistic) ending to a one-night stand, but the drunken hookup ended in loving, romantic bliss.  This couples common interest is saving other peoples lives connect them on many levels.  Even though they live together, work together and share the same friends, they never can get enough of each other.

Homer and Marge Simpson - We all wonder how Marge puts up with her idiotic husband, but all-in-all he’s her Homey.  Their love has endured the many trials and tribulations HE has brought to their life.  In this relationship, although Homer "brings home the bacon," Marge defiantly is the head of the household.  Husband and children look to her for direction, solutions and support.

Dan and Roseanne Conner - Mr. & Mrs. blue-collar.  This marriage was full of its ups and downs.  Even through their financial struggles, bothersome in-laws and sometime horrible acting children, they stilled managed to show true love for each other.

Ricky and Lucy Ricardo - Lucy was a devoted housewife and an attentive mother whose scatter-brained tactics turned any ordinary household chore into a complete and unprecedented disaster.  Lucy's husband, Ricky Ricardo, was an attractive gentleman with an excitable personality, but his patience was frequently was tested by his wife's antics.

Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big - Carrie’s on-again, off-again romance with Big gave her a lot of grief through the years, but also much joy. And through it all, they knew in their hearts they were destined to be together.

Help add to the list!

He's in his man cave. Should i knock?

He's in his man cave. Should i knock?

The conversation starts.... "Girl, he's acting funny. He's been in a funky mood the last couple of days.  He's walking around the house all quite and stuff. He ain't smiling. He ain't laughing. When I ask him what's wrong he says 'nothing.' I know something is wrong! So, then I ask him again and he explodes!" Deep sigh **  He's experiencing the "cave man syndrome" - the action that most men take when the weight of the world is stressing them out.  As they sit back and try to sort things out, they systematically shut down and go into hibernation.

Sister/friends describe the home atmosphere usually as uncomfortable, awkwardly silent and cold.  It's a relatively lonely time for wives when their hubbies have entered the cave.  Remember love is patient because during this time the best thing for a wife to do is be patient while the hubby goes to figure the solutions out on his own.

Remember love is kind! Even though he might not be pleasant  to be around, it's important that you continue to show your love for him, but balance it out with still giving him space. Continue to cook dinner, continue to say kind words, continue to send sweet "just thinking about you" texts and continue to smile. Remember he's not mad at you, he might be mad at the world, but not you. You can't take it personal.

I've seen sister/friends react in different ways and it seems that those who give the space needed get their normal acting hubbies back sooner.  When their hubbies are in the cave, my sister/friends are usually over my house with a bottle of wine :-) Or, calling me ready to burn credit cards up at Macy's.  So when the time comes for me to give my hubby the needed space, I'm expecting my sister/friends to have the Pinot chilling!

Reflect and then smile!

Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other relationship can equal.

It is a physical and an emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime.Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life.

Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher,commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life
is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life.

When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage,
they create a spirit unique unto themselves which binds them closer
than any spoken or written words.

Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people
who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfill.

Written by Edmund O'Neill

LOL...Girl you contemplating divorce!

LOL....Girl you contemplating divorce. AWE! honey now you're really married!! (clap,clap,clap)

So when my bestie mummered that over the phone, after the awkward silence, was an immediate roar of laughter from the both of us! I immediately remembered 8 years back when I got a phone call about 6 months after her I Do's, with her on the other line balling and crying her little eyes out screaming.... "This ain't gonna work. I'm leaving this nigga! I want a divorce." 

As the bestie, I was obligated to ask what happened and listen to her vent.  Then I came to the realization that they were arguing over nothing, an insignificant situation that wasn't a big deal. Fast forward....and here I am on the phone with her again, this time the roles are reversed. I'm upset over a small, tiny situation and jumping off the deep end, ready to throw in the towel! 

We get so wrapped up in our emotions it's just sickening. Ain't it? It's never as bad as it really feels. Well, unless it's physical abuse, in which case, yes girlfriend ya need to get a divorce! 

Do you still remember your vows? Go back to the video, the shit was deep! You promised a lot to him (and God)! God knew marriage wasn't an easy romantic walk in the park.  That's why he made only two legit ways to get out of it, adultery and death!  

From older married couples I hear you'll get tired of arguing over the small stuff.  Making "a point" becomes pointless.  And, sometimes just letting it go is so much more satisfying then having the last word.  At the end of the day, I may be mad at him right now, but I'd be devastated without him in my life! He ain't going nowhere and I ain't going nowhere...The same conclusion my bestie came to 8 years ago and before the three kids! In the words of my grandaddy - when ya angry you can run out the house through the front door, but ya better just go around and run back in the house through the back door.

I may not like him today, but I love him everyday!

I may not like him today,  but I love him everyday!

Famous quote from my loving mother, who has been married to my father for over 30 years.  Envision marriage as a wildlife safari, and not so much as a helpless romantic novel.  In a safari everyday is a new adventure. Today you bask in the serene beauty of the midday horizon, you watch the antelope frolic across the grassy plains, the air is fresh and the wind is pleasantly blowing through your hair while your racing through the savanna on a 4x4. Now, tomorrow, there is a different forecast! The sweltering heat is unimaginable, your about to have a heat stroke, the 4x4 ran out of gas and your walking miles on dangerous grounds....ROAR, Uhhhh, sounds like a hungry lion lurching.. Uh oh. But, all in all, taking a safari vacation is a once in a lifetime experience worth taking.

Going back to the title of this entry.  It's okay not to like him today. He's getting on your nerves. He didn't take out the overflowing trash that you asked him two days ago to dispose of. He left his mustache hairs on the bathroom sink you just cleaned.  He washed the clothes, but left them  on the couch for you to fold and put away. He comes in, walks past the closet and throws his coat on the couch.  He thinks he is always right.  He didn't trim the bushes. He has the nerve to call you a nag. Yup! You ain't gotta like him, but you love him because he's there rubbing your shoulders when you've had a rough day at work.  He's there providing the best for your family.  He's there praying for you.  He's there to make you laugh and he's there with an " I love you" text in the middle of day, just to make you smile. And he's there wiping the tear from your face because he doesn't like to see you cry.

Me and my sister/friends could go on and on about our hubbys and there half ass chores, their sometimes insensitive attitudes and their pure laziness, but when it all said and done we are still deeply in love with their crazy asses!

Wives Tales

Just a newlywed! Not even a year into the game, but the journey thus far has been a fun, whimsical, yet emotional, roller coaster. Full of it's highest high and lowest low and sometimes it just lands somewhere in the middle. My husband is my friend, my lover and my strength. I wouldn't trade him for another make or model. I love him with every breathe that I take, but in that same breathe he can get on my last nerve. In the words of my loving mother-in-law, sometimes he just makes my asshole hurt! But, all in all I love him! You never know what your truly going to go through in marriage until you truly GO THROUGH. And, when we as women go through we tend to share, discuss and get advice from our sister/friends.  Those girlfriends so close you swear their your blood sisters! Lucky for me, I have a lot of great sister friends that have successful marriages.  As I face different situations in my marriage, sometimes it feels, like I've seen or heard it before. The truth is, I have! I've been there with my sister/friends when they went through there highest high and lowest low. It's refreshing to know me and the hubby aren't the only ones that go through. It's refreshing when you hear that someone has been through exactly what you're going through. Let's face it they don't tell ya everything in premarital counseling! So sister/friends here's our stories....