LOL...Girl you contemplating divorce!

LOL....Girl you contemplating divorce. AWE! honey now you're really married!! (clap,clap,clap)

So when my bestie mummered that over the phone, after the awkward silence, was an immediate roar of laughter from the both of us! I immediately remembered 8 years back when I got a phone call about 6 months after her I Do's, with her on the other line balling and crying her little eyes out screaming.... "This ain't gonna work. I'm leaving this nigga! I want a divorce." 

As the bestie, I was obligated to ask what happened and listen to her vent.  Then I came to the realization that they were arguing over nothing, an insignificant situation that wasn't a big deal. Fast forward....and here I am on the phone with her again, this time the roles are reversed. I'm upset over a small, tiny situation and jumping off the deep end, ready to throw in the towel! 

We get so wrapped up in our emotions it's just sickening. Ain't it? It's never as bad as it really feels. Well, unless it's physical abuse, in which case, yes girlfriend ya need to get a divorce! 

Do you still remember your vows? Go back to the video, the shit was deep! You promised a lot to him (and God)! God knew marriage wasn't an easy romantic walk in the park.  That's why he made only two legit ways to get out of it, adultery and death!  

From older married couples I hear you'll get tired of arguing over the small stuff.  Making "a point" becomes pointless.  And, sometimes just letting it go is so much more satisfying then having the last word.  At the end of the day, I may be mad at him right now, but I'd be devastated without him in my life! He ain't going nowhere and I ain't going nowhere...The same conclusion my bestie came to 8 years ago and before the three kids! In the words of my grandaddy - when ya angry you can run out the house through the front door, but ya better just go around and run back in the house through the back door.