The conversation starts.... "Girl, he's acting funny. He's been in a funky mood the last couple of days. He's walking around the house all quite and stuff. He ain't smiling. He ain't laughing. When I ask him what's wrong he says 'nothing.' I know something is wrong! So, then I ask him again and he explodes!" Deep sigh ** He's experiencing the "cave man syndrome" - the action that most men take when the weight of the world is stressing them out. As they sit back and try to sort things out, they systematically shut down and go into hibernation.
Sister/friends describe the home atmosphere usually as uncomfortable, awkwardly silent and cold. It's a relatively lonely time for wives when their hubbies have entered the cave. Remember love is patient because during this time the best thing for a wife to do is be patient while the hubby goes to figure the solutions out on his own.
Remember love is kind! Even though he might not be pleasant to be around, it's important that you continue to show your love for him, but balance it out with still giving him space. Continue to cook dinner, continue to say kind words, continue to send sweet "just thinking about you" texts and continue to smile. Remember he's not mad at you, he might be mad at the world, but not you. You can't take it personal.
I've seen sister/friends react in different ways and it seems that those who give the space needed get their normal acting hubbies back sooner. When their hubbies are in the cave, my sister/friends are usually over my house with a bottle of wine :-) Or, calling me ready to burn credit cards up at Macy's. So when the time comes for me to give my hubby the needed space, I'm expecting my sister/friends to have the Pinot chilling!
No comments:
Post a Comment